Exclusivity, mutual support, and commitment to one another (August 2, 2005)
Exclusivity, mutual support, and commitment to one another: are three things written by Chief Justice Marshal for the majority opinion in the case Goodridge vs. Department of Public as being marriage’s solemn obligations. This is a second handout with important information that may be used in a possible legal challenge to gay marriage and it will be the responsibility of the Attorney General’s office to overcome them in defending the State of Massachusetts allowing gay marriage.
If anything, extending civil marriage to same-sex couples reinforces the importance of marriage to individuals and communities. That same-sex couples are willing to embrace marriage’s solemn obligations of exclusivity, mutual support, and commitment to one another is a testament to the enduring place of marriage in our laws and in the human spirit. [FN29] (www.state.ma.us/courts/courtsandjudges/courts/supremejudicialcourt/goodridge.html)
In a November 23, 2003 Boson Globe article,10 years’ work led to historic win in court; written by Yvonne Abraham gives insight and background information to the case, Goodridge versus Department of Public Health. One important consideration is that the plaintiffs in the MA case are not a representative sample of the homosexual population. In many so-called scientific studies involving homosexuality, sampling is a common methodological flaw.
The plaintiffs, who would serve as the public face of the lawsuit, were chosen carefully. They had to be varied in age, ethnicity, and profession. They had to be well-spoken, but not too political. They had to be longtime couples who had been faithful to one another. They had to stand up to rigorous criminal background checks, and to convince the lawyers that there were no skeletons in their closets. (10 years’ work led to historic court win, Yvonne Abraham, Boston Globe November 23, 2003)
Those advocating for homosexuality have written two books about homosexual parenting and the lives of children with homosexual parents Different mothers: sons and daughters of lesbians talk about their lives and What About the Children? Sons and Daughters of Lesbian and Gay Parents Talk about Their Lives. The titles are accurate descriptions of the books themselves. One of the many things that can be taken from these children’s stories of their lives is the length of the relationships their parents enter into and the number of these relationships. Often these relationships are short in duration of time and with numerous partners. These children live’s are representative of homosexual families and how children become a part of a homosexual family. That is by previous heterosexual marriages, which have been dissolved, and by women who intentionally seek motherhood. The latter may be by having sexual relations with a male often a male who has adopted a homosexual identity; artificial insemination or self-insemination using donated semen. Also, many homosexuals are foster or adoptive parents.
One very important idea that differs in heterosexual marriage and homosexual relationships is that of fidelity and monogamy. The former accepts as normative the idea of fidelity and monogamy whereas for the latter normative is what is often termed serial monogamy and open relationships in sexual matters.
Even those advocating for legalizing same-sex relationships acknowledge some problems inherent in such relationships. In many homosexual relationships, that are typically short in duration and have a host of other problems, they have sought a solution by redefining monogamy. It is now serial monogamy faithfulness with the current partner. Similarly, with an attempt to be faithful to the next partner, and however many partners that follow, however long the relationships may last. While some relationships are open that is built into the relationships are provisions for outside sexual activity with other individuals.
The book, The Male Couple by David P. McWhirter and Andrew M. Mattison was written to validate homosexual male couples. The authors write about a study of 156 male couples in homosexual relationships lasting on average less than 9 years.
Only seven couples have a totally exclusive sexual relationship, and these men all have been together for less than five years. Stated another way, all couples with a relationship lasting more than five years have incorporated some provision for outside sexual activity in their relationships. (McWhirter and Mattison, The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop, p.252)
Letita Anne Peplau and Hortensia Amaro cited four studies of lesbian relationships in a footnote on page 247 in Understanding Lesbian Relationships. The average length of the lesbians’ current relationships (note the word current, which was used by the authors of the article) varied across the studies. The relationships lasted on averaged 1-3 years, 22 months, 2.5 years, and 1-9 years. (Source: Homosexuality Social, Psychological, and Biological Issues, Editors Paul, William Ed.D, James D. Weinrich Ph.D., John C. Consiorek Ph.D., and Mary E. Hotvedt Ph.D.)
Most researchers conclude that the reasons for promiscuity and relationship failure are not primarily external (e.g. family or society persecution) but are found to be in the nature of homosexuality itself. One study found that of 2,500 American Psychiatrists surveyed, 70% held the above view. (Donald L Faris, A Trojan Horse, p.20)
Two self-identified homosexuals themselves agree with these researchers and expressed it this way in their book.
In short, the gay lifestyle - if such a chaos can, after all, legitimately be called a lifestyle - just doesn’t work: it doesn’t serve the two functions for which all social frameworks evolve: to constrain people’s natural impulses to behave badly and to meet their natural needs. While it’s impossible to provide an exhaustive analytic list of all the root causes and aggravants of this failure, we can asseverate at least some of the major causes. Many have been dissected, above, as elements of the Ten Misbehaviors; it only remains to discuss the failure of the gay community to provide a viable alternative to the heterosexual family. (Kirk and Madsen, After the Ball How America Will Conquer Its Fear and Hatred of the Gay’s in the 90s, p.363)